i'm 8, what number are you?

Probably about a year ago I found out about enneagrams. It's one of those personality trait things. Now, I thought you were supposed to figure out what number you were by looking at shapes and colors or something, but the OkCupid test I took was purely based on reading written descriptions and choosing the ones that best describe you. So I did it. And it's totally spot on. I'm only posting this as a self-explanation of how I work. I already know all this about myself, but sometimes it's good to advertise this to other people. It's also a good tool for dating. I've come to realize that I scare away a lot of people I want to attract, and those that are curious enough to find out about this hyperbolic asserter are usually my polar opposite. Of course there's nothing wrong with that, but unfortunately, I want someone more like myself in personality and worldview than opposite it. Otherwise I go a little insane, as this explains...

Your Score: 8 - the Asserter

you chose AY - your Enneagram type is EIGHT (aka "The Challenger").

"I must be strong"

Asserters are direct, self-reliant, self-confident, and protective.

How to Get Along with Me

* Stand up for yourself... and me.
* Be confident, strong, and direct.
* Don't gossip about me or betray my trust.
* Be vulnerable and share your feelings. See and acknowledge my tender, vulnerable side.
* Give me space to be alone.
* Acknowledge the contributions I make, but don't flatter me.
* I often speak in an assertive way. Don't automatically assume it's a personal attack.
* When I scream, curse, and stomp around, try to remember that's just the way I am.

What I Like About Being a EIGHT

* being independent and self-reliant
* being able to take charge and meet challenges head on
* being courageous, straightforward, and honest
* getting all the enjoyment I can out of life
* supporting, empowering, and protecting those close to me
* upholding just causes

What's Hard About Being a EIGHT

* overwhelming people with my bluntness; scaring them away when I don't intend to
* being restless and impatient with others' incompetence
* sticking my neck out for people and receiving no appreciation for it
* never forgetting injuries or injustices
* putting too much pressure on myself
* getting high blood pressure when people don't obey the rules or when things don't go right

EIGHTs as Children Often

* are independent; have an inner strength and a fighting spirit
* are sometimes loners
* seize control so they won't be controlled
* fugure out others' weaknesses
* attack verbally or physically when provoked
* take charge in the family because they perceive themselves as the strongest, or grow up in difficult or abusive surroundings

EIGHTs as Parents

* are often loyal, caring, involved, and devoted
* are sometimes overprotective
* can be demanding, controlling, and rigid

Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele

The Enneagram Made Easy
Discover the 9 Types of People
Harper SanFrancisco, 1994, 161 pages


P.S. Link added by request. I hope it works.